After months and months of passing up baby-sitting offers, my wife and I recently decided to have our first date night. Taking time for a date was our best idea this year! After twenty minutes of discussing our routines and what sort of dirty diapers we had changed , we actually started conversing like adults. We laughed. We talked about how we were doing… and we both finally relaxed.
So should parents have a date night? Assuming you have a reliable baby-sitter, the answer is YES!
Don’t Feel Guilty
One of the biggest struggles my wife and I had finally setting aside some time for a date was that we felt guilty leaving our kid behind. We felt like we were abandoning him — but this was all in our heads.
When you become a parent, you are a PARENT. There aren’t many breaks… newborns need a lot of love attention, so it’s natural to feel guilty, but that doesn’t mean it’s right to feel guilty. Leaving your kids with a good baby-sitter, food, water, shelter, warmth, etc is far from abandoning them. If you don’t build up a bank of energy, how are you going to keep giving-giving-giving?
Parenting is tough
Even if you have the best kids in the world like me, they’re still kids… and that means parenting is tough. You owe it to yourself to have some downtime so you don’t go crazy. Sometimes its helpful to get away so you can admit how tough parenting or talk with your partner about how they’re actually doing.
Add some play into your routine
When I became a parent, I was amazed by how much my life was dominated by routines. Kid like schedules. They need regular feeding, attention, changing, etc. Sometimes you forget what it’s like to do something spontaneous — like order a dessert. Plus, playing is a great way to relieve stress. (Toddlers play all the time and look at how few heart attacks they have! :)
It’s hard, but worth it
Fitting an occasional date into your life won’t be easy, but it’s worth the effort. Dates are a great way to reconnect with your spouse, unwind and be an adult (instead of a Mom) for a night. So enjoy — you deserve it!