When I was studying music therapy, we did a course on listening. It was fascinating to discuss a skill you should be doing all the time, but rarely do well.
I remember an exercise where we had to listen to a classmate without thinking of what we were going to say next. No advice. No comments. No jokes. It made me realize I didn’t truly listen to people…. and if you don’t listen, you can’t be there for others.
Since that course, I’ve tried to listen better and let people to come to their own conclusions — that’s often more helpful than blabbing whatever advice was at the top of your head. When was the last time you tried listening?