Don’t Forget to Inspire Yourself

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Regardless of if you’re a writer, artist, mechanic or unemployed, I can’t stress how important it is to keep inspiring yourself. My life changed pretty dramatically when I followed this advice.

For a long time, I worried I wasn’t good enough to pursue the hobbies I love… or that I should be focused on more sensible activities… or that I didn’t deserve to do what I wanted to. But that is all rubbish spoken from the ugly heads of poor self-esteem.

When I started dancing, hiking, painting, writing and laughing more, I felt more energized. By taking time to fill my life with joy, I somehow ended up with more energy to do all those other projects I had been putting off. My mood also improved. It didn’t matter if little things didn’t go my way because the big things were all aligning.

I think there’s a lot of truth in the Dalai Lama’s edict that “the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness” (Art of Happiness) and that we’re meant to discover ours. So what’s stopping you?

My First Book Signing

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I don’t think you ever forget your first book signing. I had planned to drop off the book and be on my way, when I was asked for my first signature. I panicked, not really sure what to write. She had a point: what’s the point of knowing the author if you don’t get a signature. There was no way to wiggle out of it.

My heart fluttered like my first kiss… I wanted it to be special and memorable, but I was a bit embarrassed and didn’t know what to write. This was my first signing… my scribbles would be eternally etched to the page with no chance of a second draft.

After I finished, I thought off a hundred great things to write… but there was no going back… and thankfully, like kissing, you get better with practice….

Daily Morning Pages

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About 5 years ago, I started writing daily morning pages. Morning pages are a journal of free-flowing thoughts.

It was most helpful for me to slip in some affirmations… mantras that helped me remember I’m an author and that it’s the little things in life that matter. Those have slowly morphed into sporadic lists of things I’m grateful for.

But I usually write on the bus to work, which made it all a bit awkward. I needed my favorite back corner bus seat or else I worried a nosey neighbor would question why I was gushing about myself.

It also meant my book of mental confessions was leaving the house. I always wonder what a thief would think if they stole a backpack filled with affirmations. Would they be inspired to like their self, or think they robbed a nutter?

Either way I have found morning pages are a great way to get everything off on the right foot. I can frame the day how I wanted it framed — instead of letting others tell me how my day will good. And best of all, a la Stuart Smalley, I’m always Good Enough, Smart Enough and Doggone It — People Like Me!

When did you meet your muse?

I never thought much about my muse(s) until I took a year off to write in New Zealand. I was unemployed and poor — just like all struggling authors should be. But then I stumbled across this Ted Talk which changed my view about creativity.  In it she claims that all creativity comes from your muse.  If people don’t like what you wrote, you probably had a bad muse assigned to the case.

It’s freeing to think that creativity can come from a muse and all I need to do is show up and write. I don’t need to be poor and depressed — worrying if the world will like me. I just had to write. Just show up and write.

Creativity from a muse feels right… so many ideas pop into my head without ever purposefully thinking them… that makes it much easier to believe in muses.

So thanks, muse, for all the hard work… see you tomorrow!

10 Ways to Find More Time To Write

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When my wife and I got serious about making time for writing, something had to be cut. I’m a big believer that there’s always time… you just have to make it.

Here are some ideas we came up with to help fit writing into your life.

Cut back on TV: The average american adult watches roughly 2.8 hours of TV per day. (http://www.bls.gov/news.release/atus.nr0.htm/) That’s a lot of leisure time for writing.

Find a consistent time to write each day: Writing is about showing up and working…. the muse will come if it comes. Find a consistent time you can set aside all distractions and focus. If you have kids, that might mean waking up early or staying up late. If you work, that might be your lunch hour or commute time (if you have ride the bus — not if you bike!)

Work Collaboratively With People: Writing doesn’t have to be a solitary endeavour. David Wright and Sean Platt (http://selfpublishingpodcast.com/about/) co-author a series of books. My wife and I usually brainstorm while walking together after dinner. I think people are afraid to work together because their ideas will be stolen, but as Tim O’Reilly said, “Obscurity is a far greater threat to authors and creative artists than piracy”

Look at your expenses: How much time are you working at your day job? Do you have multiple jobs? Lots of overtime? Take a look at your expenses. If you can reduce them, you might be able to reduce your day job. How much is your rent? Are you signed up for services you don’t use much anymore? How much are you spending on entertainment and eating out? Do you sneak off to buy snacks every day? Look into reducing your workload if that’s possible for your profession.

Outsource what can be outsourced: How is your time best spent? Are you trying to do the whole book process yourself? Sometimes it makes sense to hire professionals to handle editing, cover design, etc, even if you can do it yourself. Given your talents you need to figure out what’s the best use of your time and what you should hire help for.  Ask friends for help if they have an interest in books as well.

It’s OK to say no: People are always making demands on our time. It’s easy to feel guilted into doing them. (I’m from the midwest — I know all about guilt). It’s ok to defend your writing time and say no to requests that cut into it.

Always carry a notebook: You never know when you’ll have an unexpected block of time. Maybe you’ll be waiting for an appointment or the grocery line will be an hour long. (I know it’s unlikely, but keep a notebook handy just in case.)

Speed up household chores: How can you speed up household chores? Can you cook food in batches? Buy more underwear so you can wash clothes in bigger batches? Just don’t cut corners on cleaning — you never know when Mom will stop by.

Do things that inspire you: You don’t need to be a poor, deprived, starving artist. Do things that inspire you (maybe that’s hiking, watching rodeo, or going to a museum). If you’re not taking care of yourself (physically, mentally, spiritually), then you won’t have as much energy for everything… including writing.

Work on projects you love: If you love what you’re doing and it makes you happy, then you’ll find time for anything. Pick writing projects you love and that inspire you. If you don’t love what you’re doing, it’s time to do something else.

-Steve

What actress would I cast in my books?

Meryl Streep

If I could only cast one actress for all my present and future books, I would probably pick Meryl Streep. She seems versatile enough to handle meaty roles, but could also handle comedy. I think she would be a good match my books, which I hope not only entertain but also provoke thought and have the possibility to change people. Who would you pick to cast your books?

-Steve

Free Business Checking (for the lollipops)

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Getting the account setup was probably the most exciting part of starting a business for me. It reminded me of opening my first checking account when I was a kid. I still remember going in with my mom. A lot has changed in my life since I couldn’t even see over the counter as a kid — but I’m still just as interested in the free lollipops.

It seems like it’s getting harder to find “free checking” (for individuals or businesses), but after some hunting around I settled on Colorado State Bank… it was free up to 200 transactions, which was perfect since I was only expecting one giant royalty payment each month.

I felt very responsible and grown-up walking out of the bank with a BUSINESS checking account… but I was saddened to know that the really nice banker would only be helping me for my first month. After you have half-a-million in transactions, they transfer you upstairs…

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